Self-talk Shifts Series

Redefining Your Relationship to Self-talk –

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Here’s the thing…
you’re this close to taking the next step toward creating the life you crave. 

The only thing holding you back?
Your self-talk. 

You have a desired direction. 

Whether it’s personal or professional, you know the project you want to pursue, or the pivot you want to make. 

And you know you want to sustain a sense of wellbeing while doing it. 

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But – whether it’s pushing you forward in a misaligned direction or pulling you back from what you want to pursue – your self-talk causes stressful inner tension that gets in the way and you don’t know how to resolve it. 

If that’s the case, I’d love to help.

The truth is, it’s taking me longer than expected to get a blog series up, but I’ve decided I’ll start by telling you about a resource that is ready for consumption; my Self-talk Shifts Private Podcast Series! 

Good news, it’s free, and you can listen on-the-go  

I created this podcast for enterprising women who want to take the lead in their lives and feel empowered to pursue meaningful endeavours with more ease. 

That’s going to look different for each of us! 

Whether it’s :
– setting up a garden,
– designing a website,
– learning a new language,
– figuring out SEO (search engine optimization),
– volunteering with a community group,
– writing a book,
– providing care for a loved one,
– recording a new program,
– unpacking the impact facing adversity,
– pivoting offers to serve different clientele, forming a new relationship,
– recording a podcast,
– fighting government corruption…
– or whatever else you may be doing;
the endeavours we pursue, and challenges we face, are personal to each of us, and our inner narrative affects how we navigate our circumstances.

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Customizing the way you apply the concepts in this podcast series (and in my comprehensive Self-talk Synergy System if you enroll at some point) is an important part of effective integration. 

Self-talk is a tool for self-leadership, and many of us have yet to harness its power. 

Self-talk Synergy, which is ultimately what I want for my students and clients, is about both sides of self-talk (conscious and nonconscious) coming together to communicate in a collaborative way, so that their contributions create something greater than what they’d accomplish apart. 

Each side of your self-talk has something meaningful to contribute to your life, and it’s a matter of appreciating their different perspectives while also aligning them with a common purpose. 

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Many of us see our inner voice as a nuisance, at best, and even more so like an enemy. 

Prior to working with me, my clients’ and students’ self-talk often looks more like an antagonistic relationship than an alliance, and that can cause a lot of unnecessary tension, and ongoing stress. 

Self-talk structure is complex and has many contributing factors. 

Although there are general themes and principles that are supportive generally, effective restructuring needs to be customized to each person, so that it’s congruent with who they are, how they live, and what they want. 

Any strategy that doesn’t take that into consideration is lacking, in my opinion. 

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I’ve spent years diving into different facets of our inner dialogue’s structure and utility, and while I can get pretty nerdy about it, the simplified frameworks and strategies I’ve developed can help you transform self-talk to feel more empowered and easeful. 

I want more women to feel capable of cultivating the life they crave, even when it’s out of the ordinary, or not on track with what’s expected of them. 

Too many of us are holding ourselves back, and it’s showing up in the status of our wellbeing, success, sense of fulfillment – and society at large.
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You can lead your own life, and self-talk can help empower you. 

While there’s no doubt that your external environment influences your quality of life, your inner narrative also has a very meaningful impact on how you are able to navigate your circumstances and create desired change. 

Self-talk is about how you speak to yourself about yourself; it tells you who you are, what’s possible for you and what you’re capable of. 

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Though my own past led me here, and I wouldn’t change a thing, I do sometimes reflect on how differently I would have moved through life if I had been equipped with Self-talk Synergy tools earlier. 

I’m certainly grateful to now have a greater understanding of self-talk’s power and my ability to harness it as I take on both the enriching endeavours I choose for myself in the future, and the unchosen challenges that inevitably arise. 

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Popular culture has underestimated, and misrepresented self-talk, and it’s led many of us to ongoing misunderstanding and misguided strategies. 

I had no idea how impactful restructuring self-talk could be until I did research into the topic and developed my own proprietary approach. 

I literally thought self-talk was just about positive affirmations and maybe some pep talks in the mirror. 

Once I saw self-talk for what it really is, and can be, I dedicated my professional life to supporting women with the skills to embrace their own empowering inner narrative.

If you want to see what you may have been missing, I encourage you to explore further by tuning into this free limited podcast series which highlights: 

4 Persuasive Self-talk Styles, to help you identify your own dominant style.
These styles have an ability to push you forward, pull you back and/or convince you to stay put.
They can feel toxic at times due to the way they show up, but each has elements that can be used adaptively in your favour. 

4 Guiding Principles, to help you understand self-talk’s power.
Self-talk’s persuasive power is often perceived as a problem because it can feel like it’s getting in our way, but when you truly see the intricacy of self-talk structure you can harness it in ways that support empowered self-leadership. 

3 Common Misguided Strategies, so you know what to avoid.
These are common recommendations that many people attempt only to find themselves even more frustrated than before. 

3 Elements of Congruence, so you know what elements to focus on.
These are key factors when it comes to taking charge of your life. 

3 Phases of Restructuring Self-talk, so it can be more supportive and show up for you in a way where your wellbeing becomes non-negotiable, your efforts are sustainable, and life enrichment is inevitable. 

7 Steps to Self-talk Synergy, so you have a path to follow if you’d like further guidance. 

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When I first began developing a curriculum regarding self-talk, I was focused on helping women embrace self-compassion. 

But as I learned more about the countless ways in which entrepreneurial women felt their self-talk was working against them, I began researching the full function of self-talk both on an evolutionary level, and also in terms of supporting wellbeing and life enrichment.

The road became much more interesting than I had anticipated, and the quality of potential transformations was elevated, which was exciting and kept me curious and exploring. 

Though my path took me in many divergent directions, I was luckily able to synthesize the arising ideas in a way that became a comprehensive approach to restructuring self-talk, so that there’s a sense of wellbeing at its heart – and we can appreciate both sides’ contributions and align them to work together well.

When each side of self-talk is receptive to the other, there’s a lot to learn, and lead from. 

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I know as you read this, you may question whether there is a process that will actually work for you. 

And it’s important to note that the pillars of empowered self-talk include some aspects that are universal, but one of the pillars is personalization because your inner narrative is related to your personal experience and for it to be fully supportive it needs to take your specific situation into consideration. 

Self-talk Synergy is a state that can be cultivated. 

In my opinion, any self-talk advice that doesn’t allow for a customized approach will lack efficacy. 

Your inner dialogue has not only been informed by your life experiences thus far, but also your self-leadership is based upon your own needs and desires as you move forward, so one-size-fits all, generic approaches can frankly feel annoying AF. 

Here are three things I recommend being mindful of when you’re renegotiating self-talk:
1) Your intersectional identity.
2) Your lived experience and current circumstances.
3) Your unique set of needs and desires. 

These things matter, like, a lot 😉 

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Empowered self-leadership is contextual.
And so is Self-talk Synergy. 

If you’d like to learn more about the shifts and support your own self-talk transformation, I invite you to check out the Self-talk Shifts Podcast! 

Wishing you all the best. 

Evelyn Eliza (Eve)
Self-talk Strategist & Educator

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